Habits To Make Your Happier
There is so much written about habits including the wonderful book by Charles Duhigg, The Power of Habit. It’s an area that I find endlessly fascinating. The simple idea that you can make one small change that has the potential to make a major change in your life - love it!
There are some small, time-tested changes you can make straight-away that have the potential to change your life - to make you happier and that’s something worth changing for.
Start a Morning Routine
The way you start your day has a powerful effect on your entire day so why not start it with intention. One quick, easy and very effective thing to build into your morning routine could be drinking a glass of lemon water first thing. Start your day with a little cleansing and jumpstart your system. You could also do a little stretching, eliminate the sugar in your coffee or listen to a motivational podcast. The idea is start a routine, something you do every (or most mornings).
Learn To Say No
Most of us are people pleasers at heart and that’s a lovely way to be - unless it’s happening at the risk of your own happiness. Learning to say no isn’t selfish, it’s more like self-preservation. It allows you time for yourself, time to re-charge and focus on the things that matter to you. A little side benefit is that when you d say yes, it might even be appreciated more.
Comparison is the Thief of Joy
Social media in all its wonderful glory has unfortunately created a real monster when it comes to comparison. Open Instagram and see people on holiday in exotic places, eating gourmet foods, wearing designer clothes, having perfect hair, brows, teeth, cheeks - it’s endless!
I’m not going to get into how social media isn’t a real representation of life (I’ll save that for another post) rather let’s just think about the fact that there will always be someone richer, prettier, smarter, skinnier - and that’s okay. The real idea is to embrace yourself, flaws and all because that is what makes us who we are. That is what makes us the crazy, beautiful, messy, unique, wonderful beings that we are. Love yourself - always love yourself.
Mindfulness is an ancient practice that is getting quite a lot of media recently and with good reason. From a health standpoint it can help relieve stress, treat heart disease, lower blood pressure, reduce chronic pain, improve sleep, and alleviate gastrointestinal difficulties. And it helps you come into the present moment which is exactly the right place to be.
You might want to consider building the following mindfulness meditations into your morning routine - it can be as short or long as you’d like.
Come into a comfortable place , sitting or lying down. Start by breathing in and out slowly.
Breathe in through your nose and out through your mouth, letting your breath flow without effort, without changing anything about it. Just focus on your breath.
Thoughts will naturally begin to arise, just notice them. Don’t try to push them away, don’t fixate on them, just simply notice them and continue focusing on your breathing.
Always coming back to your breath.
Sit with this for as long as you feel comfortable - one minute is certainly better then no minutes. Over time try to work yourself up to longer periods of time 1 minute, two minutes, three minutes. . .